Reviews

“Learning by Accident is a gripping, unforgettable account of the relentless stress, exhaustion and, at times, profound rewards of being a caregiver. Rosemary Rawlins perseveres in tending to her husband as he recovers from a devastating brain injury; she keeps hope alive even when it seems he doesn’t recognize her and every medical setback threatens to mark the beginning of the end. She is a compelling narrator, sharing her self-doubt and loneliness with honesty and absorbing detail. Thanks to her spine of steel, loving daughters, and loyal friends, Rosemary finds new meaning in her life and ultimately learns the value of taking care of herself as well as others. Her deeply moving story underscores the need to support caregivers as much as patients and provides a useful road map for families facing such extraordinary challenges. This is an eye-opening, inspiring memoir about love, commitment, and the true meaning of the vow to stay together in sickness and in health.” — Leslie Brody, author of The Last Kiss: A True Story of Love, Joy, and Loss

“For anyone who had suddenly been plunged into an alternate world by a phone call, Rawlins’s honest and searing account of her family’s journey through injury and recovery will ring true for anyone who has had a loved one with a sudden traumatic injury. Her keen observations, emotions, and the sheer resilience of her spirit speak to hidden jewels and ultimate redemption that can be found on the flip side of any “bad thing.'” — Lee Woodruff, New York Times bestselling author of In an Instant

“Rawlins tells a candid story of love and pathos about her husband’s traumatic brain injury. She captures the frustration, the angst, and the grinding irritation that exhausts the caregiver and strains the relationship. While it explores the wrenching grief over the intellectual and emotional loss of a companion and partner, it is also about hope and rehabilitation.” — Claudia L. Osborn, Over My Head, A Doctor’s Own Story of Head Injury from the Inside Looking Out

“In Learning by Accident, Rosemary Rawlins bravely limns the collateral fallout her husband’s traumatic brain injury causes his wide circle of family and friends. With grit and grace, courage and humor, she takes us through the joyful achievements and frustrating setbacks of his recovery. It is an inspiring story of love, commitment, and the hidden strength we all hope we would have in similar circumstances.” — Carolyn Roy-Bornstein, author of Crash

“Rawlins is authentic and daring in writing about what most caregivers think about, but are too afraid to verbalize. She inspires those who are suddenly thrown into the role of caregiver, that they can also survive and thrive. ” — Dixie Coskie, award-winning author of Unthinkable”

“As someone who has lived through similar events, Rosemary’s story resonates. Her feelings and fears and triumphs are so similar, it’s chilling. Learning by Accident takes you page by page on a journey of love and family in the aftermath of her husband’s brain injury.” — Janna Leyde, author of He Never Liked Cake